Webster describes the word “process” as: a usually fixed or ordered series of actions or events leading to a result. It occurs to me that this whole idea of grief being a process is somewhat absurd. It’s assuming we can somehow box up all the feelings of grief in some neat little box and explain it in an orderly fashion. How do you explain the experience of feeling sometimes shocked, sometimes angry, sometimes sad, sometimes depressed, sometimes afraid and sometimes lonely. Sometimes all mixed together at once, sometimes all thrown around in circles of overwhelming stress and pain. Whoopee, label that orderly and fixed.  A neat little orderly package that makes so much sense to the logical mind. I don’t think so!